What is Emotional Intelligence?

What is Emotional Intelligence?

I have been doing a lot of learning and training lately on Emotional Intelligence. I knew a lot of the aspects of Emotional Intelligence, but I did not realize it all fit together and that it had a name or a label. So what is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence, often referred to as EI or EQ is a major part of who we are as people and how we deal with the situations and people around us. It is our capacity to control, be aware of, and express our emotions, while handling our interpersonal relationships both with empathy and judiciously.

How Do We Use Emotional Intelligence?

Unlike I.Q., which is something we are all born with, E.Q. can be developed over our years and can improve with work and attention to different aspects. There are four main aspects we can focus on if we are looking to improve our E.Q.:


1. Self Awareness – The ability to recognize emotion in yourself and see how these emotions affect both your behavior and thoughts; Knowing your strengths and weaknesses; Having self confidence

2. Self-management – The ability to control impulsive urges, behaviors and feelings. Dealing with your emotions in a productive and healthy fashion, adapt to new and unforeseen circumstances, and follow through on promises and commitments.

3. Social Awareness – The ability to understand the needs, concerns, and emotions of those around you. Feeling comfortable when in social situations, picking up on emotional cues of those around you, recognizing the dynamics of the organizations or groups you’re a part of.

4. Relationship Management – The ability to maintain and develop strong healthy relationships, influence


Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Fitness are just as important as physical fitness. We need to be purposeful about our mindfulness. However, mindfulness is sort of an oxymoron because the mind is already full. Most tactics on mindfulness are focused on clearing the mind and releasing the mind of all of our heavy thoughts. This is only the beginning. There will be much more on this topic to come in the near future. Stay tuned.


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